Blog

The ongoing, unpolished version. Thoughts as they happen, lessons as they land.

ADHD & Identity · Coming soon

Why "but you don't look like you have ADHD" is the most exhausting thing to hear

A reflection on masking, the long-term cost of pretending to be neurotypical, and why late diagnosis so often comes with a complicated grief.

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Parenting · Coming soon

The school meeting I wish I'd had ten years ago

What changed when we finally found a teacher who really got it — and what it taught me about advocating for kids who don't fit the mould.

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Personal · Coming soon

Six months on medication: what changed and what didn't

An honest account of starting medication as an adult — the things that shifted, the things that didn't, and what I'd tell my past self about what to expect.

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Relationships · Coming soon

ADHD and partnership: the conversations my wife and I had to learn to have

How ADHD had been quietly affecting our relationship for years before either of us had words for it — and what talking about it honestly finally changed.

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Work · Coming soon

The working environment that finally worked for me

After years of fighting open-plan offices, back-to-back meetings, and the modern productivity gospel — what I've actually built that helps.

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Posts are coming

I'm writing these properly — which, with an ADHD brain, means I'll finish them right on the deadline I've set for myself, possibly at 11pm, probably with cold tea beside me. Watch this space.

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