Welcome to Our Wavelength
I'm Dave. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult — and I'm raising a son who has it too. This site is where I share what that's really like: the chaos, the breakthroughs, the guilt, the growth, and everything in between.
For years I moved through life feeling like everyone else had been given an instruction manual I never received. Losing things, forgetting things, talking too much, struggling to finish anything — and carrying a low-level sense of shame about all of it.
Getting my ADHD diagnosis in my forties changed everything. It didn't fix anything overnight, but it gave me a frame. A way to understand myself with compassion instead of frustration.
And then there's my son. Watching him navigate the same challenges — at school, with friends, with his own sense of who he is — while trying to be the parent I never had: that's the other half of this story.
This site isn't a clinical resource. It's not written by a professional. It's just one dad, sharing honestly. If something here resonates, I'm really glad you found it.
There's something here for wherever you are on the journey.
Late diagnosis, a lifetime of "trying harder", and what finally changed. The personal journey behind this whole site.
Read moreWhat it's like parenting a child with ADHD — especially when you have it too. The tough days, the tender moments, and what I've learned.
Read moreStrategies that have actually worked for us — at home, at school, and in daily life. No magic, but some genuine help.
Explore tipsThe books, websites, podcasts, and tools I wish I'd had earlier. Curated for adults with ADHD and parents alike.
See resourcesOngoing thoughts, updates, and moments from the journey as they happen. The unpolished, real-time version.
Read the blog"The moment I stopped trying to fix myself and started trying to understand myself — everything shifted. I became a better father, a better partner, and honestly, a much kinder version of myself."
— Dave, writing this in a quiet moment between school runs